Future Foundation Atlanta

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Future Foundation is all about aligning leaders with success. Please join us for an evening of networking and dialogue with Ceasar Mitchell, Atlanta City Council President. This intimate discussion with one of Atlanta’s most dynamic community leaders will empower you to enhance your professional development through service.

There will be hors d’ouerves and refreshments served.

Visit bit.ly/1LCP31j to purchase your ticket today!

We look forward to seeing you there!

*All proceeds will directly support the youth and families of Future Foundation.

 

How long have you been married? 

Chuck and Denise: We will be married twenty-three years in November.

Where did you meet? 

Chuck and Denise:  We met at a bar in Wilmington Delaware.

What were your first impressions of each other?  

Chuck: It was love at first sight. What impressed me was her smile. I could sense she had a ton of energy.

What made you want to get married?  

Chuck: I was completely settled and dedicated to the relationship. I had a level of respect for myself that I never had before. Also, I was in the right frame of mind. I had a very good idea of what a healthy marriage should look like.

How did you propose? 

Chuck: There was a sequence of events; signs and signals which led to the proposal. Call it destiny or fate. I spoke to my father. Then I spoke to her brother, because her father was deceased. I realized that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. After talking with them I spoke to her and asked her to marry me.

How does your faith play into your marriage? 

Chuck & Denise: If you have enough faith to believe in something, then you are willing to take a chance. Without faith, I would be hesitant to be vulnerable and expose myself to her at that level. If you ever get to a point where you can’t believe, then you lose trust. You have to have blind faith and take risks to expose yourself and vulnerabilities to someone else- faith that they won’t take advantage and will see the positive.

Do you have any marriage survival tips? 

Chuck and Denise: Keep it Simple. Love is great, but friendship is better. You have to capture the friendship. Friendship keeps it together.

How do you keep the fire burning in your relationship?  

Chuck: Be extremely creative. Constantly give little things to let each other know you love and care about each other. Be spontaneous. Try different things. Be open minded.  I also love to spend time with my sons and their spouses. It gives me the opportunity to see ourselves in them; reflect and get a fresh perspective.

Is there anything you would do differently looking back on your marriage? 

Chuck: No. This is my third marriage. I knew what I had to do and was supposed to do. I had to have Ultimate respect for myself, her, and the relationship.  These were the standards by which I had to operate.

Why do you think African Americans have the lowest marriage rate, but the largest divorce rate?  

Chuck:  Some [Black men] have no respect for themselves. No respect for their partner. No respect for the relationship.

If you were giving advice to a couple who wanted to get married, what would you say? 

Chuck and Denise: We would ask them to consider: What type of friendship do you have? Do you enjoy spending time together; being silly? Are you intimate? What are your similarities and differences? Is your relationship designed to fit your needs, her needs and the relationship’s needs?

What does marriage mean to you?

Chuck and Denise: Partnership. Joint venture. Alliance. Friendship. Major investment with significant positive returns.

How long have you been married? 

Dan and Tracey: We will be married seventeen years and 10 months in April.

Where did you meet?

Dan: We met at DHS Elementary School.

Tracey: He was the cute snack man. lol

What were your first impressions of each other?

Dan: My first impression of her was man she is she but dang her ankles are ashy.

Tracey: Oh, Whatever My first impression of him was he’s cute but he has a big nose.

What made you want to get married?

Dan: What made me want to marry is when I saw her hooping (Playing basketball) with her hair and nails done. I thought to myself “Oh Yea She The One!”

Tracey: For me, I did a list of the top 10 things I want in a man and he was my ultimate mate.

How did you propose? 

Dan: I spoke with the manager at Applebee’s about my idea. They agreed to participate. I told her I had a speaking engagement to attend. When she arrived at Applebee’s someone was reading a poem I wrote, I finished the poem and came out and asked her to marry me.

How does your faith play into your marriage? 

Dan and Tracey: It’s a natural part of our marriage; we go to church every Sunday. We like to color coordinate when we go to church it’s one of our traditions. We all wear the same color.

Do you have any marriage survival tips? 

Dan and Tracey: Yes, Be friends, “Let it ride” means to ask yourself; would you rather be right or happy? If the answer is happy then let it ride, know your center by not letting other’s opinions in your marriage.

How do you keep the fire burning in your relationship? 

Dan and Tracey:  Be spontaneous. Always laugh, oh and when she wears this certain type of fragrance.

Is there anything you would do differently looking back on your marriage? 

Dan and Tracey: Yes, Financial decisions would have been well thought out.

Why do you think African Americans have the lowest marriage rate, but the largest divorce rate?  

Dan and Tracey:  Because some people are in it for the wrong reasons, selfness, financially, infidelity, counseling isn’t recommended, and sometimes we tend to celebrate separation.

If you were giving advice to a couple who wanted to get married, what would you say? 

Dan: First we would ask why? Have you all looked at each other’s goals? What made you choose him/her?

Tracey: Make a list see how many negatives verses positives, then decide. Don’t marry just because.

What does marriage mean to you? 

Dan and Tracey: Forever. Can’t do without. Able to share your life with someone you love. Commitment. Sickness and Health.

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How long have you been married?

Richard & Emily: 12 years, 11 months

How did you meet?

Richard &Emily: We met at Emily’s work office.

What were your first impressions of each other?

Richard: I was surprised that she was an African-American which is a rarity among brokers.  I thought she was very organized, professional and pretty.

Emily: I thought he was well-dressed and professional.  He was easy-going, intelligent and handsome.

What made you want to get married?

Richard and Emily: We knew we were in love and it was time to take the next step.

How did you propose?

Richard: Over dinner.

How does your faith play into your marriage?

Richard and Emily:  It is very important. We are both Methodist Christians. “A house divided cannot stand.”

Do you have any marriage survival tips?

Richard and Emily: Weigh your problems and never let anything be bigger than your love for each other.

How do you keep the fire burning in your relationship?

Richard and Emily:  You have to maintain your physical condition.  We also have date night every Friday night, usually Mexican food.

Is there anything you would do differently looking back on your marriage?

Richard and Emily:  Not a thing

Why do you think African Americans have the lowest marriage rate, but the highest divorce rate?

Richard and Emily: I think a lot of it has to do with economic division, not willing to be being committed enough and definitely a change in values.

If you were giving advice to a couple who wanted to get married, what would you say?

Richard and Emily:  Make sure you like as well as love the person.  Never go to bed angry. Ask yourself the following:  1) Are you sure you love each other?; 2) Can you support your family?; 3) Are you fully educated on the person?

What does marriage mean to you?

Richard and Emily:  Marriage is happiness, security, togetherness, sharing dreams, hopes and love and always being there for each other.

How long have you been married?

Widdie and Chelsea:  We’ve been married 23 years.

How did you guys meet?

Widdie and Chelsea:  We met at a sweet sixteen party in 1992

What were your first impressions of each other?

Widdie:  She was really cute.

Chelsea: I thought he was a playboy.

What made you want to get married?

Widdie and Chelsea: It was really all love and most importantly God’s call.

How did you propose?

Widdie: I proposed over dinner at Olive Garden.

Do you have any marriage survival tips?

Widdie and Chelsea:   You must have prayer, teamwork, a lot of sacrifice and focus.

How do you keep the fire burning in your relationship?

Widdie and Chelsea:  We have date nights.

Is there anything you would do differently looking back on your marriage?

Widdie and Chelsea:  We would wait to have children.

Why do you think African Americans have the lowest marriage rate, but the largest divorce rate?

Widdie and Chelsea:  Cheating is probably a major driving force for divorce in black marriages.

If you were giving advice to a couple who wanted to get married, what would you say?

Widdie and Chelsea:  Communicate as much as possible.

What does marriage mean to you?                                                                           

Widdie and Chelsea:  Marriage is commitment and setting priorities.